Ayurvedic psychology

Knowledge of Ayurvedic psychology gives several tools in regards to the approach of the various constitutions, and consequently help us establish better relationships with our loved ones, our friends and with people who are inevitably in our entourage.

Understanding the psychology and the profile of each type of constitution is the key to a harmonious relationship. It is obvious, by looking at the psychological characteristics, mental and emotional tendencies of the various Doshas, that people are different and that the same approach does not apply to all.

A good relationship is based on the report that we are able to establish with the person in front of us. There is no need to become too open and develop a close friendship with all the people, however it is essential to establish a relationship of mutual respect.

It is also important to understand that people of the same constitution are not the same neither. A Vata constitution will tend towards more anxiety, a Pitta type constitution Pitta is more prone to anger and Kapha type will tend towards the attachment and sentimentalism. On the other hand, people can be mixed constitutions as well, which will determine a single event of doshas in psychological terms. Even within the same constitution we will find various forms of manifestation of doshas. Also, the more people working on mastering their mind and body, the more difficult will be to notice such trends.

According to the Ayurvedic wisdom, we cannot change our constitution, however we must seek to balance our constitution and render it more pure, or Sattvic. We cannot change the fact of being Vata, Pitta or Kapha, but we can aspire towards the sattvic aspects of our personality.


THE VATA PSYCHOLOGY

A person with a Vata psychology is usually nervous, anxious, agitated or distracted. A Vata person will speak in a fast and agitated manner, with lots of gestures, will tell many stories, and their speech will usually be chaotic. They will be quickly interested in anything new, but they will be the last to implement what they seem to be excited about. The vata types will change easily their opinion; what is valid and valuable today, will no longer be valid tomorrow. Accordingly, when it comes to therapy or treatment, they are going to try several things at once by using a combination of therapies, or they will change therapy too quickly without taking the time it takes to obtain some results. They can even stop the treatment even if it is progressing well, only because of their changeable Vata nature.

Their tendency toward anxiety makes them negative relative to their health and they have a lot of concerns in this regard. The Vatas will seek to be reassured and comforted, but the more we agree with them, the more they will have new sources of concern. Long conversations on these particular subjects that concern them are not beneficial, as it only strengthens their worries and fears. The best approach as a friend, relative or co-worker simply is to be firm and entrusted with them, and when they come to see us for advice, give them very concrete tips as they have the tendency to be too much in the abstract. Also, we must not give them too much advice or suggestions.

The most difficult part with a person Vata is that they look too much for external reassurance and assistance and they are not going to take steps to take control of their life. The Vatas will often be in their universe, in their thoughts, and they will find it difficult to go down to practical things. Hence the importance of helping them to be more in the body, to be more in tune with the sensations and in the real world because they are often cut off from this reality and their experience is pure mental. In other words, they must be directed towards more practical solutions.  Also, it is important to encourage them to do something with regularity and perseverance than doing several things at once in a superficial way.

Transcending the mental Vata nature involves outgrowing an undecided, hyperactive, restless, distracted, nervous, restless, talkative, superficial, noisy and excited mind to a flexible, adaptable, enthusiastic, with good communication skills, good healing energy, and the ability to initiate change.

THE PITTA PSYCHOLOGY


Pitta People generally know what is wrong with them. Even if they consult you, they already have a theory in relation to their difficulty. Often, they will also tell you what is good to do in their case, and what they want you to do for them. They can be defensive and even demonstrate aggressive criticism. The Pitta are usually leaders, and they are not used to following the advice coming from other people. Their speech will be fairly structured, defined, and they will speak more to convince you on their opinion on the subject.

The Pittas love contradictory discussions that allow them to express their argumentative, controlling and dominant nature. With Pittas it is best not to go into the arguments. Relate to a Pitta as you do with a friend. If you try to dominate they will respond and they will become defensive, if you try to please them, they are going to try to control you. If we treat them as equals, they will be more responsive and will provide better answers.

The Pitta types must develop friendship, therefore a friendly approach is the best way to deal with them. Their nature of fire, easily irritable, irascible, is balanced by a cool, fresh, friendly, quiet and harmonious environment.
 
At the same time, Pitta are the most punctual of Doshas, and the most reliable. Once convinced of the importance of a certain action, Pittas become the best executors and the most fanatic followers. They also tend to be a bit fanatical and extremist in their approach; You should ensure that they are moderate in their actions and help them not to go too far.

Transcending the mental Pitta nature means gradually moving from an impulsive, aggressive, controlling, critical, dominant, manipulative mental nature towards an intelligent, enlightened, friendly nature, a courageous leader and a good guide.

THE KAPHA PSYCHOLOGY


The Kapha types need to be stimulated and motivated to do things. The main characteristic of a Kapha person is the slowness and the lethargy. They have hard time motivating themselves to do things. Even if they so demand, the comfort is not the best way to deal with them. On the contrary, they react much better to shocks and light threats. In their case, the attachment is the source of their suffering; encouraging them in their attachment will only amplify this trend and their addictions.

Compared to Pittas, who are able to take action by understanding the need for a certain act, Kaphas need to be pushed further. Compared to Vatas, who need to be encouraged to be positive, Kapha need the strongest arguments, and in a sense be frightened with the negative consequences of certain trends.

They give the best answers by an attitude of love associated with firmness and persistence. With a Kapha person one must always more time and emphasis to help them reach their goal.

Transcending the nature Kapha involves a mental switch from a controlling, committed, greedy, materialistic, sentimental mind seeking comfort and luxury to a calm, happy, stable, consistent mind, fair, able to feel love and compassion, able to forgive, patient, and with a strong belief.

Inner design

Life is not easy. We all experience at times the feeling of being thrown into life situations and scenarios in which we feel we have no control. Actually most of the people live that way. Some may argue that life can be an amazing adventure. Others know for a fact that it could be a burden.

Sometimes it reveals to us as the most profound and majestic experience, sometimes as the most excruciating pain. Life happens through us in many layers, at all levels. Whatever we think, perceive, know and experience, no matter how important or insignificant, how beautiful or how ugly, it is LIFE.

You are the fruit of LIFE.

You may be able to make a huge difference in the world, succeed and thrive, or perhaps you are one of those who will put a lot effort just to stay afloat. Nonetheless, there is an undeniable something that defines you and at the same time takes you out of definitions, something that you can perceive even right now as we speak; something extraordinarily profound and meaningful about your life that lives through you no matter where you find yourself to be.

In truth, we know very little about life. We have some knowledge, to a certain extent, about the complexities that it involves and implies, but very little about life itself. Life seems to be a flow organised in cycles, patterns and very precise rules, governing the entire existence from the immensity of the space to the nucleus of the cells of your body. Life wants to experience itself and its possibilities of expression.

In the middle of this phenomenal experience we call life, there is YOU, the most sophisticated and elaborated life sustaining machine.  YOU, your body, your neurology exploring and permanently inventing new ways of being and doing. Among all life forms that we know so far, you, as a human being, are the only one endowed with awareness and intellect.

The question is: whatever you happen to be confronted with now, individually and collectively, how do we tackle it?

Do you know enough about your mind and body and how they work to make a conscious choice?

That’s what inner design is about. Learning about how life operates through your mind and body and apply those rules as you move along. Integrate the shadows, get clarity, be responsible and get involved and committed with life.

How to master your emotions

Emotions are the way we express ourselves in life.

Emotions are waves of energy which reflect the quality of how we relate to life and its events. Positive emotions arise from a deep desire for enjoyment and unity. Through the positive emotions we are working on learning more points of view, we are interacting more with others and we are enjoying making things better. Here we find enthusiasm, empathy, love, interest, laughter, action, curiosity.

Negative emotions could manifest as a result of the fear of the unknown, of the fear of the actions of others and a need to control them or stop them to avoid being hurt. Here we can find: anger, resentment, sadness, apathy, grief, fear, shame, blame, regret, hatred.

The negative emotions are not necessarily something to get rid of, as they serve important functions and they show us that we face a situation we don’t know how to deal with or that there is something going wrong. For instance fear is useful as it show us danger situations, anger might show us that there is a control situation going on.

Emotions are not good or bad, they are the polarities of the same energy

Emotions that we express in the moment by reacting to a present situation are neither good nor bad. They are simply a ways for us to deal with what is happening. The problem starts when the emotion gets stored up in the mind and in the body and then replayed at a later point in time out of context when some of the external factors are similar to the initial situation that caused it.

Negative emotions will give us clues about areas that need to be dealt with and transformed. They show us that there is something there we are not dealing with properly. Through the process of awareness, we will have to deal with them and then transform them into something more useful and enjoyable.

On the other hand, negative emotions are the engine that pushes us to move away from what doesn’t serve our purpose; whilst the positive emotions are the motivation for moving towards what serves us well. The problems arise when this system gets stuck and we start moving towards what we do not need; the stuck negative emotions are therefore the ones to be looked at and transformed.

Emotions happen through the body

Contrary to what we might tend to believe, emotions are NOT in the head; they express and manifest THROUGH THE BODY.  Emotions locate in the physical organs and in the energy channels. The body is a network of energy pathways and when negative emotions are manifesting basically the energy flow gets interrupted.

We might not be aware of what happens in the body during some intense emotional episodes. The chemicals released and the body reactions to certain negative states may seriously harm our health on the long run.

Anger for instance can cause the release of a stress hormone called cortisol. It is an important hormone in the body, secreted by the adrenal glands and is involved in functions such as regulating the glucose metabolism, the blood pressure; the insulin release for blood sugar maintenance etc.

The purpose of working with emotions is to release the energy that is blocked

In the course of our lives, we might express different combinations of emotions. Some of us might be chronically stuck in a negative emotion, like anxiety for example. Others might react according to certain emotional patterns. For example a person might have hidden anger or fear that gets triggered by certain circumstances and a simple casual remark might push a button that releases it. It is also true that we attempt to defend and justify our replayed emotions.

EFT – the Emotional Freedom Technique – is one of the most efficient techniques existing today for releasing the emotional charge associated with specific events in our lives.  By stimulating certain energy points located on the body while tuning into a precise emotion, thought or event from the past, the disturbance of the energy field caused by these triggers is being released.

Emotional wellbeing is the capacity to identify and release emotions as they arise.

How can Ayurveda and EFT help you reach a fluidity of expression of emotions?

Firstly emotional balance corresponds to the state of balance of the doshas.  Anxiety will be treated by reducing Vata dosha. Anger, irritability, frustration can be dealt with better when we reduce Pitta dosha. Depression, sadness, lethargy are Kapha type emotions. The more we keep our doshas in balance, the easier will be to understand and deal properly with our emotional mind.

Secondly, emotions can be also triggered by past events, by traumatic experiences from the past and by thought patterns. Deeply rooted ideas and concepts that we formed during childhood are many times the root causes of present fears and negative attitudes that we conduct in life.

For instance, a child who grew up lacking attention and love, which was abused physically or verbally, will tend as an adult to see the world as an insecure place and may develop fear based attitudes. Not only that the lack of security will be on the background of her actions in life, but they will also ATTRACT situations in which they will be a victim over and over again until the core idea of INSECURITY will be released from the subconscious mind.

EFT is a powerful tool to help release the emotional charge stored in our energy system in relation to very specific events from the past or in relation to various ideas and concepts we have stored in our mind.

8 secrets to well-being

  1. Know the Laws

Our Universe is governed by very precise laws that are ruling our existence in the physical plane. Science has become extremely advanced in the comprehension of the environment in which live. It is well understood that each effect has a cause and behind it there is a law according to which the cause is being produced. Our very existence on this planet is possible because we partially understand and respect these Laws.

Similarly, in our physical body there are some rules that
need to be known and respected so the body keeps its healthy functioning and
becomes the optimal instrument of expression of our Being. Everything that
happens at the physical or emotional level has a root cause and a law according
to which it manifests.

We all know that we need to get dressed well when it’s
cold, that we need a cool drink when it’s hot so we can hydrate our bodies; we
have the basics. However, our life style today, the STRESS and the pollution,
require a little bit more than the basics. We need to do a little bit more and
have a little bit more knowledge about life for leading a healthy life.

Ayurveda is the science that is teaching us these
Universal laws that operate among the various layers of the human life. They
are at work weather we are aware of them or not and without this knowledge we
are just experiencing the effects, blindly looking for remedies. In order to
reach a state of wellbeing, we need to know and respect the natural laws.

2. Know yourself

We are all unique individuals and we are all different in
the way we think, feel, react to external situations, the foods we like and the
activities we enjoy. Therefore, even the sense of balance will mean something
different and will be experienced differently by each person.

We all have our unique mind-body constitution, the set of
characteristics expressing through behaviour, emotions, intellectual
tendencies, body type, and metabolism. Ayurveda explains that this blue print
of each individual is determined by the predominant Dosha. When in equilibrium,
the doshas (VATA, PITTA, KAPHA) help us be our best selves.

Understanding our nature and the elements that compose it,
is an important step in our journey towards our own state of balance and
wellbeing. While the individual profile remains unchanged through life, the
day-to-day interplay of the dosha tendencies are likely to vary according to
internal and external factors such as emotions, food, seasonal changes,
climate, etc.

My services help you understand your unique mind – body
blue print and thus learn what to do – or not to do to in order to feel
healthy, happy and alive.

3. Increase the vital force

Ayurveda teaches us that health, wellness, harmony and
beauty are the result of the state of balance of the doshas. In the same time,
vitality, joy and aliveness are possible through a powerful subtle substance
produced by our body.  The secret of a
life lived to its fullest consists in maximizing this vital subtle fluid,
called Ojas.  The Sanskrit term Ojas can
be translated as ‘that which invigorates’.

Ojas is the by-product of a healthy, efficient and
balanced physiology. It is the result of the process of digestion and creation
of the inner tissues from the food we eat.

Ojas can be increased by a healthy life style, by a strong
digestive power – Agni, by a healthy diet that includes milk, saffron, ghee,
fresh fruits, raw honey, almonds, by laughter, meditation, quality sleep and
deep relaxation. In the same time, the ayurvedic routines and treatments done
regularly and seasonally will help you stay in balance and increase this vital
force.

4. Learn to relax and release the need to struggle

One of the key factors to wellbeing is the ability to let
go of the struggle, surrender to what happens and reach a state of inner
balance,  as from this state the real
healing or transformation can occur.

Trying to find a solution to any of our challenges (I
don’t like using the term “problem”) from any other space in ourselves other
than the state of inner balance, usually does not bring long lasting results.
In fact, the more we struggle, the more we want to “fix” the problem, the
deeper we move into it. Emotional non resistance is the best way to go.

The Key therefore is to step out of cycles of stress,
mental or physical exhaustion and restore the state of relaxation and wellbeing
as often as possible. My services aim to help you move into your natural state
of wellbeing from which you can allow your life to unfold naturally,
spontaneously as an expression of your greatness.

5. Maintain the fluidity of the emotion-energy body

According to Ayurveda, the body is the field of
manifestation of what happens inside the mind. In fact, negative states ONLY
happen through the body and create bio-chemical processes that could harm the
body in the long run. The body reflects thus various emotional states and
mental patterns as our physical vehicle takes over the emotional charge that we
are not willing to release into the consciousness.

The purpose of working with emotions is to release the
energy that is blocked; this energy can then be used to become more fluid in
the way we express ourselves and to live a life that is more in tune with who
we really are.

The services and treatments offered aim to help you use
whatever emotion is most appropriate and use the energy that it contains.
Ultimately negative emotions (fear, anxiety, anger etc) need to be integrated
into the consciousness.

6. Congruence

In everything we want to express, there is a need for
congruence. Our desires, our actions, our thoughts and our feelings have to be
in alignment in order to obtain the desired results.

The metaphor of the garden is the best to illustrate this
aspect. A beautiful garden requires knowledge and consistence. We have to first
plant the right seeds, we have to use fertile soil, we have to water the plants
and to regularly clean the weeds.

Our deepest thoughts and desires are the seeds of the
situations in our life. They need to be taken care of with the right feelings,
emotions and actions for them to sprout and manifest fully. As long as there is
contradiction or conflict between what we feel, what we think and what we do,
our deepest desires cannot come to fruition.

7. Awareness, the ultimate key of transformation

If there was one single element that could encompass all
the methods that humankind has developed during its evolution on earth for
healing, transformation and authentic living, that would be awareness. Life
goes beyond the physical reality. We are much more than we can see with our
eyes.  We’ve been brought up with a
material concept of the world, believing that we are separate from the
environment.

In fact, everything we experience, feel, see, taste,
touch, every relationship we have – is happening in consciousness.  The science of quantum physics has shown that
we are not merely a body, but a field of energy, and what we expect and pay
attention to determines what we draw out of the field into our experience.

When nothing else works, the ultimate key that remains at
our disposal is ourt consciousness, our ability to be aware, the inner
observer. Whatever we bring forth into awareness eventually is being
transformed and integrated.

8. There is no solution that applies to everybody

Whatever works for others might not work for you. Your
life experience is unique, the system of beliefs and concepts is also unique.
Your body has its own way of functioning. When dealing with whatever aspect of
your life, whether is for health, emotional wellbeing, beauty & rejuvenation
fitness or relationships, the solution is already within and is it up to you to
access it.

We’ve been brought up to believe that it’s all about
changing the external conditions, and most of us spend our lives struggling
against external circumstances. In reality, life works exactly the other way
around.

No matter how it appears to be, what we see out there is
ALWAYS a reflection of the inner set-up. All the power to determine your
experience is within you, not anyone or anything else.

My services provide with an INDIVIDUALIZED approach – addressing your body, your mind, your emotions –  aiming to guide you towards the point where you can allow your inner strength, power and beauty to manifest fully in your life.

Your question will be addressed in a much individualized manner: from the oils, herbs and ingredients used during the treatments to

Coaching in the business environment

Many may believe that coaching for businesses is a “waste of time” and
that usually too much attention is given to mindset and emotions instead of
focusing on business strategies. Definitely mindset and emotions are not the
main factor in achieving success; however, mindset and unconscious patterns
could be an important obstacle to reaching it and a sort of a side effect to
many.

Building a “real business” for “real businessmen” focusing only on
business strategy is one of the valid ways to go; however one has to take into
the consideration the factors which are directly influencing the business in
the long run, such as burn out, turnover, performance, stress levels and the
increasing levels of depression and mental disorders that a work environment
could trigger in people – management and employees alike.

If the work environment should be, in the perspective of many, an
emotion free environment focused solely on business, then it would be even more
of a good idea to invest into mind strategies and design that will help real
businessmen master their emotions and the high level of stress.

Emotions are the consequence of thinking and thinking can reach very
high rates of intensity in a stressful environment. Emotions are inevitable;
expressed, suppressed or repressed, they will be there whether we want to admit
it or not. High level of knowledge and expertise in a certain field does not
necessarily imply an equivalent level of mastery of one’s state of mind.
Usually it is quite the contrary. The more we tend to focus our mind on one
particular field of study, the less attention one gives to one’s own mind and
body.

Besides, a coach will not tell you what to do
or if you are good at what you are doing. The goal of the individual and group
interventions in the work environment is to help access the inner potential,
identify strategies that are counterproductive and replace them with other
strategies which are meant to consciously bring forth the desired results. Learning
more about oneself is a great quality that a business leader can learn and use
especially in a fast moving society as ours with all of its challenges.

Becoming a fully developed human being is the
primary goal for any human, businessman or not; the nervous system is designed
for progress, evolution and expansion and if the contact with one’s own nature
is lost or weakened, then vision is not clear or at least not directed towards
the greater good, which is so much in need these days.

My work experience in the corporate world as a
team manager and as a coach and my various contracts and visits that I’ve had
with my collaborators helped me identify that no matter the field of activity,
the challenges managers are confronted with are: the lack of interpersonal
skills, lack of clarity in the use of language and lack of motivation.

Most of the conflicts and the stress in the work environment can be drastically reduced by simple tools and
techniques that can be easily learned and applied by anybody. Allowing the
management and the employees to expand into a more enlightened version of
themselves is always a win-win scenario. Learning more about our own nature,
about our mind and learning how to use this machine called the human body is
the key in any personal and professional endeavor.

It is tendency these days to move into a more environment friendly approach to business, to cultivate
respect to nature, recycle and protect our planet. In this context, I know that
you will agree with me on the fact that the first environmental factor to
consider is the human factor: the employees, thus their health, their wellbeing
and their level of happiness, motivation and satisfaction with their job is
fundamental to the success of your enterprise.

 

Here are the various workshops that I have organised in the past and the events,
presentations and interventions that your team could benefit from:
  • Learn how to communicate efficiently to
    get things done
  • Master your emotions, master your mind
    (the three levels of mind -1 day workshop)
  • Establishing report and increasing
    interpersonal skills
  • Sales, means of persuasion; how to make
    people like you
  • Tools for dealing with difficult people
    and difficult customers