Knowledge of Ayurvedic psychology gives several tools in regards to the approach of the various constitutions, and consequently help us establish better relationships with our loved ones, our friends and with people who are inevitably in our entourage.

Understanding the psychology and the profile of each type of constitution is the key to a harmonious relationship. It is obvious, by looking at the psychological characteristics, mental and emotional tendencies of the various Doshas, that people are different and that the same approach does not apply to all.

A good relationship is based on the report that we are able to establish with the person in front of us. There is no need to become too open and develop a close friendship with all the people, however it is essential to establish a relationship of mutual respect.

It is also important to understand that people of the same constitution are not the same neither. A Vata constitution will tend towards more anxiety, a Pitta type constitution Pitta is more prone to anger and Kapha type will tend towards the attachment and sentimentalism. On the other hand, people can be mixed constitutions as well, which will determine a single event of doshas in psychological terms. Even within the same constitution we will find various forms of manifestation of doshas. Also, the more people working on mastering their mind and body, the more difficult will be to notice such trends.

According to the Ayurvedic wisdom, we cannot change our constitution, however we must seek to balance our constitution and render it more pure, or Sattvic. We cannot change the fact of being Vata, Pitta or Kapha, but we can aspire towards the sattvic aspects of our personality.


THE VATA PSYCHOLOGY

A person with a Vata psychology is usually nervous, anxious, agitated or distracted. A Vata person will speak in a fast and agitated manner, with lots of gestures, will tell many stories, and their speech will usually be chaotic. They will be quickly interested in anything new, but they will be the last to implement what they seem to be excited about. The vata types will change easily their opinion; what is valid and valuable today, will no longer be valid tomorrow. Accordingly, when it comes to therapy or treatment, they are going to try several things at once by using a combination of therapies, or they will change therapy too quickly without taking the time it takes to obtain some results. They can even stop the treatment even if it is progressing well, only because of their changeable Vata nature.

Their tendency toward anxiety makes them negative relative to their health and they have a lot of concerns in this regard. The Vatas will seek to be reassured and comforted, but the more we agree with them, the more they will have new sources of concern. Long conversations on these particular subjects that concern them are not beneficial, as it only strengthens their worries and fears. The best approach as a friend, relative or co-worker simply is to be firm and entrusted with them, and when they come to see us for advice, give them very concrete tips as they have the tendency to be too much in the abstract. Also, we must not give them too much advice or suggestions.

The most difficult part with a person Vata is that they look too much for external reassurance and assistance and they are not going to take steps to take control of their life. The Vatas will often be in their universe, in their thoughts, and they will find it difficult to go down to practical things. Hence the importance of helping them to be more in the body, to be more in tune with the sensations and in the real world because they are often cut off from this reality and their experience is pure mental. In other words, they must be directed towards more practical solutions.  Also, it is important to encourage them to do something with regularity and perseverance than doing several things at once in a superficial way.

Transcending the mental Vata nature involves outgrowing an undecided, hyperactive, restless, distracted, nervous, restless, talkative, superficial, noisy and excited mind to a flexible, adaptable, enthusiastic, with good communication skills, good healing energy, and the ability to initiate change.

THE PITTA PSYCHOLOGY


Pitta People generally know what is wrong with them. Even if they consult you, they already have a theory in relation to their difficulty. Often, they will also tell you what is good to do in their case, and what they want you to do for them. They can be defensive and even demonstrate aggressive criticism. The Pitta are usually leaders, and they are not used to following the advice coming from other people. Their speech will be fairly structured, defined, and they will speak more to convince you on their opinion on the subject.

The Pittas love contradictory discussions that allow them to express their argumentative, controlling and dominant nature. With Pittas it is best not to go into the arguments. Relate to a Pitta as you do with a friend. If you try to dominate they will respond and they will become defensive, if you try to please them, they are going to try to control you. If we treat them as equals, they will be more responsive and will provide better answers.

The Pitta types must develop friendship, therefore a friendly approach is the best way to deal with them. Their nature of fire, easily irritable, irascible, is balanced by a cool, fresh, friendly, quiet and harmonious environment.
 
At the same time, Pitta are the most punctual of Doshas, and the most reliable. Once convinced of the importance of a certain action, Pittas become the best executors and the most fanatic followers. They also tend to be a bit fanatical and extremist in their approach; You should ensure that they are moderate in their actions and help them not to go too far.

Transcending the mental Pitta nature means gradually moving from an impulsive, aggressive, controlling, critical, dominant, manipulative mental nature towards an intelligent, enlightened, friendly nature, a courageous leader and a good guide.

THE KAPHA PSYCHOLOGY


The Kapha types need to be stimulated and motivated to do things. The main characteristic of a Kapha person is the slowness and the lethargy. They have hard time motivating themselves to do things. Even if they so demand, the comfort is not the best way to deal with them. On the contrary, they react much better to shocks and light threats. In their case, the attachment is the source of their suffering; encouraging them in their attachment will only amplify this trend and their addictions.

Compared to Pittas, who are able to take action by understanding the need for a certain act, Kaphas need to be pushed further. Compared to Vatas, who need to be encouraged to be positive, Kapha need the strongest arguments, and in a sense be frightened with the negative consequences of certain trends.

They give the best answers by an attitude of love associated with firmness and persistence. With a Kapha person one must always more time and emphasis to help them reach their goal.

Transcending the nature Kapha involves a mental switch from a controlling, committed, greedy, materialistic, sentimental mind seeking comfort and luxury to a calm, happy, stable, consistent mind, fair, able to feel love and compassion, able to forgive, patient, and with a strong belief.